Ep. 24: Your Future Self

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Welcome everyone – how are you today?  I’m so happy you are hear – if you are new we are so excited to have you with us and if you are returning well I thank you from the bottom of my heart – so happy we are doing this all together.

Ok – let’s just dive right in –

Last week I talked about your past –  how you can change it to serve you, and how it has no indication of your future.

So today, I thought it would make sense to talk a little about your future – and how you can control that, and shape it as you want.

Do you guys remember when you were little?

Remember how you would dream about the future?

Like we just expect that we will go through school,

graduate from college,

get married,

have kids –

whatever it was for you.

But then what happened?

It’s like we get a certain age and all of a sudden what we think about our future is … well, not much.

We stop dreaming of what is still possible.

I see more people thinking things like –

I can’t do that , I have kids, or my job takes up my time, or I’m too old to change.

Nooooo…..

You absolutely can still shape your future.

Here – this will be a fun little exercise – take a moment and write down –

well, not if you are driving –

but take a couple of minutes and think about

what would  you love to have as your  top 5 outcomes in the next year?

Really consider it –

Is it drink less?

Lose 10 pounds?

Save for an amazing vacation?

Buy a house?

Go for a promotion?

Really take some time.

Ok – once you have that, take a look back at how you spent your last 24 hours.

Do any of your activities line up with your goals?

This is so fascinatiing right?

Well, first of all – most people don’t actually take the time to think about what they want in the future.

We just act as if life is happening to us – the kids need to go here and there, the job has demands, the ….. whatever your story is.

But remember – the results you have in your life now are because of the thoughts you’ve been thinking.

If you want new results in the future you have to take a look at what you are thinking – for example, the kids need x-y-z, the job requires a-b-c and decide if you want to keep thinking this.

Now – if you are anything like me when I started you might be saying – well Michelle, you don’t understand – my situation is different…lol..

I used to always tell my coach that ..lol..

She did not believe me..lol..

And I want to offer you the same – I am not buying into your story – and I can say that because I was SO set in my story originally, but I have since done so much work on my mindset that I know you absolutely can create the life you imagine.

Now, let me also mention – as a reminder – your brain works on a motivational triad.

We’ve talked about this in the past right – It is designed to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and be as efficient as possible.

What does that mean?

It means when you start thinking about new things,

starting to try on new thoughts and changing your beliefs.. well,

your brain is going to revolt.

Change is not comfortable to your brain, it is not efficient, and it typically does not feel pleasureable as you are going through it.

You know what does feel pleasureable?

Well..lol.. lot’s of things – but for this podcast we are focusing on alcohol – and for some – food.

So – your toddler brain –  will always try to take you back to the thoughts like – I’ve never been able to drink less, I’ve never been able to lose weight – this is just how I am…

And on and on

What I like to offer to my 1:1 clients as they begin to take their lives to the next level – are what we call ladder thoughts.

This work is not all about rainbows and butterflies and let’s just think happy thoughts and make it happen.

It’s about being purposeful and deliberate in thinking thoughts that get you to the next level.

So what do I mean by a ladder thought?

Well, you know how a ladder has rungs – is that what they are called?

You know – the parts you step on that take you from the bottom to the top.

You know what I’m talking about…

So

it’s not like you go from thinking I love my wine every single night to –

I’m not drinking at all –

Or you don’t go from thinking I am fat to thinking I am skinny.

You take baby steps.

For example – when I was working on the drinking less – I started working on thinking – I want to not want the wine so much.

It wasn’t like I started at –

I need my pinot g to relax

and tried to believe

I can be totally fine without it.

See what I’m saying?

Here’s the thing

when you are working on creating your future self – you need to believe the thoughts you are coming up with.

It’s almost like trying on new clothes – what fits?

What feels good?

Don’t like that thought?

Toss it back out and try on another.

It can be fun friends – experiment and see what works.

Now – here is the other thing you can do – and this you hear all the time with athletes.

Visualization.

I didn’t realize how important this is to the equation – and I mean as you reach for new levels in any situation.

Dr. Joe Dispenza talks a lot about mental rehearsal his work.

In fact, in his book Evolve Your Brain –

The Science of Changing your Mind –

he discusses an article

that was published in the Journal Of Neurophysiology

which looked at 4 groups of individuals playing the piano –

and they wanted to look at brain changes in each group.

I’ll share a quick summary –

One group learned and memorized a specific one handed five finger sequence that they physicaly practiced everyday

for 2 hours

during the 5 day period.

The second group

was asked to play the piano without any instruction –

just played randomly for 2 hours each day.

The third group

never even touched the piano,

but they did observe what was taught to the first group

until they knew it by memory in their minds.

They mentally rehearsed  for the same amount of time.

The 4th group

was the control group – they did nothing –

never learned, or practiced or showed up.

Listen to what they found.

They used some sophisticated gadgets to measure the changes that took place in the brain,

and the group that only rehearsed mentally

showed almost the same changes in neural networks

in the same specific area of the brain

as those who physically practiced it.

The second group

showed little changes

because

they did not play the same sequence over and over

– remember -they were the random players.

Since it was so random the neural networks were not strengthened.

And obviously the control group

didn’t have any change since they didn’t do anything.

The explanation for how the third group did as well as the first

is what neuroscientists call Hebbian learning

-basically stating

nerve cells that fire together wire together.

BINGO

This is why the visualization – or mental rehearsal – will help you evolve to your next best self.

You want to start wiring your brain to believe in the possibilities of your future self.

Now – I’m not suggesting you start playing the piano as your future self.

That was just an example.

For you it may look like you visualize yourself walking into a bar, feeling sophisticated as you order a club soda.

Or – you imagining yourself only having 2 drinks on the weekend with girlfriends.

Or – you showing up at the buffet and not having every single item.

Or – you passing as they have the dessert tray go around.

Whatever you are hoping to become.

Start thinking about

what it looks like

to you now.

Here’s the thing

– when you start thinking like that

you start getting in the feelings of maybe –

confidence let’s say –

and then you show up in this moment

more confident than yesterday

and you start believing you can stop at 2 drinks.

And then you build evidence of doing that.

And soon you will become that next best version.

Here’s the thing – you only need one small change at a time.

Think about if a plane is 1 degree off course in an 8 hour flight… you were scheduled to land in one location but since the little changes add up – well now you are at a location you never imagined.

That is what this work is my friend.

You start making little changes now

and you will land at a life

you never dreamed was possible.

Start today.

Oh – and I have one more fun activity for you to try.

I thought of it because I was just talking about how as a kid I loved getting letters from pen pals.. lol – I am SO dating myself there – I don’t even know what the equivalent would be these days..lol..

I think a pen pal in todays world is likely considered a creepy stalker person..

Lol..

Anyhow –

Take some time and write a letter

from your future self.

So imagine you,

Having already accomplished your goal.

What would you tell your self –

maybe things like – I am so happy you kept going

I knew it wasn’t easy, but it’s so worth it…

be creative.

I feel like so often we say things like – oh, if I had known back then…

well do that now –

access your brain from the future

and tell yourself what you need to know now

as you create the life you imagine.

And of course – don’t forget to sign it –

much love…

we do all of this with love friends

I have to tell you –

I have so much love for you all doing this work.

Keep going – it’s so worth it.

Ok  – That’s what I have for you today –

You know the drill – let’s circle back next week – but for now – make it a great day – take care!

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